Is a gett required if the couple cohabited without civil or religious marriage?

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We recommend a get for couples that have either lived together publicly in a manner that would reasonably have led their Jewish community to treat them as married, or else who considered themselves married.  A get is not necessary simply because a couple cohabited or engaged in sexual relations.

Please note that while we recommend a get in such cases, if one party is unwilling to cooperate, or if children were born from a subsequent relationship but before the get, it is generally possible to find other solutions.  This is often true even where there was a legal marriage, or even where there was a religious ceremony.  People in such circumstances should seek expert rabbinic advice.

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